What was your first reaction when you became a father?
Well, i was in the room while she was giving birth.. Let me tell you it is not a pretty site. I was at the face end of my fiance, i was holding her hand trying to comfort her.. i decided to look down to see what was going on.. .. i didn't look back that way until it was all over.. It wasn't very pretty...... I still remember seeing my fiances belly go from bulging out to flat in about 2 seconds which was some pretty trippy stuff! umm.. My fiance's first words were Holy Shit... and to be honest.. i cried after my daughter was born.. i was extremely happy to know that she was alright and that i helped to create her.. it is the biggest accomplishment of my life. (that said.. don't go out and get pregnant. it's hard!)
@ link, yeah she was only 15 when she got pregnant. the baby was born in january and her birthday was in april.. she was 15 and 9 monthsish..
How did you react when she told you?
Do you know how she reacted when she found out?
When i found out.. i was really really scared.. and the thing that made it worse.. is my dad always frowned apon girls getting pregnant at a young age, He even called a 16 year old girl a slut cause she got pregnant.. all i could think of was; "oh geez, how the fuck am i going to tell dad that jemma (15) is pregnant!?..". I ended up telling him while we were arguing one night.. and suddenly he stopped yelling.. he was quiet for a bit (i was in tears because i was so scared) he came to me.. hugged me and told me that he would help us any way possible.. omg.. what releif that was! haha.
and i don't really know how she reacted.. i can only guess..
I'm pretty sure she would have been very very scared.. for about 2-3 weeks she tried to tell me.. eventually i guessed it and at that time it hadn't really sunken in until she started to grow a belly.. :S
How did your/her parents react when you told them
well.. i only live with my father so you know that story (read above)
she only lived with her mother at the time.. who took it really really well.. i mean she never once looked at me differently or angrily..
Her father reacted in the same cool calm manner.. i was trembling when i first met him in case he was only "acting" calm and decided he wanted to cut my balls off or something.. that wasn't the case luckily.
and well my mum.. meh, my mum rang up once like.. last year sometime.. (last time i spoke to her) she rarely speaks to us because she is so drug fucked and doesn't care about us.. I told her that she was going to be a grandma, all she really said was "WOW. I'll do my best and be in my grandchilds life, i'll be their for the birth and help out." ... And like i said.. that was the last time i spoke to her, she wasn't at the childs birth, she hasn't helped at all.. and if it weren't for her calling my brother a few months ago.. she wouldn't even know that she had a grand daughter.. >.>
Well there you have it folks.. any more questions?.. it feels kinda good to share how i feel.. i've never really shared how i felt about it all