Social Anxiety.

[Nightwolf]

simple solution in 3 easy steps

1. spend less time online
2. spend more time with other humans
3. dont start a sentense with the words "i hate black people" that will always screw it up

lawl, easy explaining.
third points best!!

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You still put 1/2 after your age? Hahaahahaha

pretty close to that 16th one so I gota make it show! 

[haloOfTheSun]

Erm... what was this topic about again?

[GilgameshRO]

You're all insecure.

[Yossy]

Everyone except you an me, Gilga.

[lost]

I'm almost positive I have this problem. I tend to freeze up a lot in social situations, and when people I don't know try to talk to me I usually can't find what words I need to say. It's starting to get on my nerves now, and I was wondering if you guys had any suggestions for getting rid of it.

I had HUGE social anxiety. When I was little if there was a ring at the doorbell I literally hid somewhere. Over the past year I have finally gotten over it. I purposely threw myself into social situations. The first was my step uncle had a wedding reception and I crashed it. i sat at a table with a bunch of strangers (cause I was crashing), so my anxiety was buzzing that night. Then I discovered if I hid behind a camera all night and became the unofficial photographer I would get to meet everyone :-) I just went around and asked if they wanted their photos taken. That led to jokes, or conversations or weird gipsy like people (family of the bride) telling me to get the camera away from them!

The second situation I threw myself into was I have a friend who's girlfriend threw her a surprise birthday party. I only knew my friend and the friend, however both of them were not at the party for the first 3 hours. I found approachable people and stuck with them, once I got cofortable I mingled around.

So just throw yourself into a social situation and you will get over it. The more you are around it, the easier it will be :-)

[Malson]

Lemme say that you're one of the coolest newbies I've seen lately. Thanks.

[oneiromancer]

I used to have this to the extreme, almost to the point of death.  i sould starve my self in my dorm @ college for fear of people talking about me.  paired with OCD, ADHD & bipolar, i had it really bad.

My problem was the opposite of most peoples, in that my medications were making me paranoid.
luckily, my roomate in college got me to smoke pot.  a few months after, i quit all my meds & decided to face every fear i had.  so for me, i guess mild hallucinogens solved my problem;  but i have been overmedicated since i was a child, to the point of near schizophrenia.  it is different for everyone.

Meditation has helped the most, by far.
If i am able to meditate before & after big social situations, i do much better & don't almost have an aneurism.  As an actor & singer, that was crucial.  deep breath meditation also associates with all of these activities, namly the bong.

But yah, meditation & a change of diet / drugs may be helpful.
before trying anything crazy, i reccomend fasting & education about medication counteractions.  always talk to a doctor... but make sure they're sane first.

good luck I hope you feel better.
the crippling fear of social anxiety is no joke & i hope for all taht have it.
just remember to relax... i think most people forget that & pot just reminds me.  all sorts of meditative arts are out there from gaming to juggling, just find something you like so much that it overrides the fear.

[haloOfTheSun]

An odd thing is, I don't seem to be fine when I'm actually performing (music), and don't care if there are crowds of people there. I've performed (not alone, of course,that might be a little different) in front of 5000+ people, but am entirely calm, except for the excitement because of how awesome is. But of course, not everyone is that calm during (and especially before) any sort of performance like that in front of people, and meditation definately seems to help them. Not sure how much that would help Zypher or anyone else here, but it wouldn't hurt to try out.

[lost]

Lemme say that you're one of the coolest newbies I've seen lately. Thanks.

Wow thanks!

[Malson]

An odd thing is, I don't seem to be fine when I'm actually performing (music), and don't care if there are crowds of people there. I've performed (not alone, of course,that might be a little different) in front of 5000+ people, but am entirely calm, except for the excitement because of how awesome is. But of course, not everyone is that calm during (and especially before) any sort of performance like that in front of people, and meditation definately seems to help them. Not sure how much that would help Zypher or anyone else here, but it wouldn't hurt to try out.

Yeah, I'm known for how sweet I am at speaking in front of class and not getting nervous about it. Which is the weird part.

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Class speaking is gay for me. I am known as a funny person all around, so I can write a dumb essay and it would make the class laugh when I read it. Its getting annoying now in highschool, If i say thw word DOG they laugh...annd the teachers hate it since I have to pause whenever I read, and the class loves it and all, but its getting old.

[Nightwolf]

The thing is Zypher needs to interact more with his non relatives/friends / classmates.

youve not done it before so whenever someone says something like

"Hello"
"Shit..."

[haloOfTheSun]

The thing is Zypher needs to interact more with his non relatives/friends / classmates.

youve not done it before so whenever someone says something like

"Hello"
"Shit..."

WHAT!?!?

[Nightwolf]

LOL EXAMPLES

[Yossy]

It's okay, Halo.  I don't understand anything Nightwolf says, either.

[Nightwolf]

It's okay, Halo.  I don't understand anything Nightwolf says, either.

-.-"

[Blizzard]

It's okay, Halo.  I don't understand anything Nightwolf says, either.

Quoting out of concurnesses. !_!

[Malson]

The thing is Zypher needs to interact more with his non relatives/friends / classmates.

youve not done it before so whenever someone says something like

"Hello"
"Shit..."

This is an Intelligent Debate thread. If you don't have anything intelligent to say, then get out.

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This is an Intelligent Debate thread. If you don't have anything intelligent to say, then get out.

And the start of "Read first: Rules to Intelligent debate" topic.

[lost]

The thing is Zypher needs to interact more with his non relatives/friends / classmates.

youve not done it before so whenever someone says something like

"Hello"
"Shit..."

that is just a shorter version of what i said. i did say throw yourself into more social interactions and you will get used to it.

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Unless your nervous all around. Being in more social conditions won't help too much. Practice on your own time, by yourslef would probally help.

[lost]

oh and part of my former extreme social anxiety disorder success story is a few times i have become the center of attention (in a posative way) telling jokes or stories. In fact I did something no comedian could ever do. I made cancer funny in a room with 15 people listening to me. It was a string of 30 minutes worth of jokes and stories that led up to the cancer stuff.