I don't know what it's like where you're from, but here... I only know two gay dudes, and their both taken (Each other lol.) All the others guys here are straight... If I had a vagoogoo they'd want to stick their sticks in me. ;___;
Oh nooo, well lucky you don't have a vagoogoo then!
I must say, I've known more males identifying as female than I do females as male. Or perhaps more males are comfortable sharing that information than females are. It would be a valid explanation.
Actually, I've found that as well. I don't know if we're some kind of minority or whether, like you say, the guys are just more comfortable "coming out", as such.
Hm. Interesting. Here we go.
As a male who is quite fond of his masculinity, I cannot argue that there is just as much magic in manhood as there is in womanhood. However, even I cannot deny that being a girl sounds like it could be fun at times. What is it about your femininity that you do not connect with?
I happen to work in medicine, and I am very sympathetic to those whit gender dysphoria. If a person identifies as whichever gender, I use that pronoun to address them. In your stage of transition, do you live outwardly as a male? If so, do you get offended or feel negatively when you are referred to as SHE instead of HE?
Plastics and urology tell me that surgical construction of a vagina, complete with clitoris, is possible and becoming easier while construction of a penis is practically impossible. How do you view the issue of genital reassignment given this information, and if surgery is not an option, what alternatives have you considered?
One of my homosexual friends says that one's sexuality is based on one's view of one's own gender. In other words, I am heterosexual. Even if I were to suddenly wake up female, I would tend to remain heterosexual. Assuming that your "soul" is male, do you tend towards hetero or homo? Do you see this changing as the transitional protocols unfold?
Have you undergone any counseling concerning your desire to transition? How far into this process are you right now?
I mainly dislike the expectations that come with being a female. It seems all old-fashioned nowadays, but the little things still hang around, like women are mostly expected to have at least one child. Also, on the other hand, they aren't
expected, though are allowed to if they so wish, to go out and be the head of the family, earning money. It's a little hard to explain, but the femininity just doesn't feel correct; it doesn't feel me.
I don't live outwardly as a male quite yet, I'm waiting for the right moment to spill the beans to most friends and my family, becuase my mother isn't the most accepting of "different" people, so I'm waiting until I'm a lot more comfortable and in a better place to explain to her. At the moment I don't, other than with one or two very close friends and on the internet, tell people that I am, or at least would like to be considered as, a male. Because of my age, and the fact that I'm not yet on T or have been operated on, I'm generally female to most people, which hopefully I can change later. (: I don't react negatively, or generally feel negative, unless it's somebody I have specifically asked to call me by male pronouns and all that.
I consider that just my luck, the genitals of the gender I want being so difficult to get right, haha. The genital reassignment surgery would be the last thing on my list to get done, really, as it isn't too much of a deal to me when I can just cope with packers for the time being, and I'm not currently at an age to be sexually active so nothing would stp me there. My views on this could very well change in, say, two or three years, however, if I were to get a partner, but for now I'm quite fine on the genital surgery. I'm considering just taking the Testosterone for a while and seeing how that goes, and having chest surgery to get rid of my boobs so I wouldn't have to wear a binder all the time.
Well, I've always considered myself pansexual, because I honestly don't mind anyone, gender-wise. I don't see this changing at all, gender doesn't faze me, it's personality and, admittedly, appearance that will sway me on whether I like a person, not whether they are a male, or a female, or consider themselves a non-gender.
I haven't gotten into any counselling as of now, because I would feel too bad going about it behind my family's back if I were to do it whilst still not telling them. Once I have the whole thing out in the open I might consider it, but for now it's a no-go.
Incidentally enough, a close friend of mine recently came out as transgender, though she's MtF rather than FtM. I have to agree with Logan when I say that men identifying as women seems to be a lot more prevalent than women identifying as men.
At any rate, after my friend came out, I did some research into transgenderism. In my travels, I stumbled across a rather nice FtM fellow on YouTube. It was rather enthralling watching his transition. Skylarkeleven is his name.
Anyway, that aside, may I ask when you realized you were transgender? Has it been something you've dealt with your entire life, or is it more of a recent development?
I suppose for some it's a "grass is greener" scenario, but I personally can't see that. I enjoy being a male.
Oh wow, thanks for the link, his videos are really cool, thankyou!~
I hear a lot about transgenders who say "I knew since I was a kid" "I always wore girl's/boy's clothes, or played with their toys" and all that. I wasn't one of those. I was tomboyish, at best, but I was partial to the odd barbie and pink item of clothing every once in a while. It was around this time last year (I was 14 at the time) when I really started understanding what the word Transgender meant, and understanding that actually that's the way I had felt about myself for a good three or so years. So yeah, about a year ago is when I really started to realise.
I just love being a woman... I can get loads of free booze when going out......... JK
It's true that they both have their good sides. Men are straight-forward, but women have the gentle touch... Men are protective while women can comfort people. It's just natural to people to sometimes wish they were "the other gender" once in a while. Though, maybe that is why people are attracted to others? They want to complete themselves by having a soulmate
I rest my case.. XD
Ahaha, You have a point!
You've got a very good point there, the whole completion thing. You may have just cracked the mystery of love! Haha.
Being trans isn't about like, choosing sides or preferring masculinity over feminism or wanting to eat penis. It's whoever the person is on the inside.
Basically, shut up boe.
Thankyou, Anski. (: