Over half the fun of RMXP is figuring out how to do these things on your own. You realize that, right? I mean, seriously, probably only about 5% of people who use RM ever get a demo out for people to play, and probably only 5% of them ever finish the game. The fun in RM is not about releasing a game - it's about making it. By yourself. If you aren't having fun experimenting with RMXP and discovering how to do things on your own, RMXP is really not worth your time.
Anyway, I attached a basic little screenshot. Pay attention to the stuff where the asterixes are.