okay, im not sure how else to describe it besides showing you what i have so far.
In the event box, Click on the pink (that is where she is suppose to be.) then click on her in the list of icons. (not the tileset)
In prob3 (and possibly 4) the reason why she disappears so fast is that there's no wait between the move event and the switch on.
Just in case I'm not being clear enough:
(https://rmrk.net/proxy.php?request=http%3A%2F%2Fi.imgur.com%2FylJr8.png&hash=9943f5a3d7fab60624c8d20fcb4b8e714301f9ff)
sweet! thanks guys, ill check this when i get back to my house :P